Swinging 101: Intro to the Swingers Lifestyle
Getting Involved in Swinging for the First Time
As this is a swinging 101 style lesson we are talking about newbie stuff. If you are new to the swinger’s scene and have yet to join a sex club or be invited to a party, we are here to help with everything you need to know.
Your first time in a sex club can be daunting but we can offer some help there too. You might be a little unsure about going by yourself and with that in mind, you can try SwapFinder to find local people who might want to attend with you. Buddying up with someone doesn’t mean you have to ‘play’ together if you don’t want to, but sometimes it’s just nice to have a partner you can bounce ideas off and just give each other a little Dutch courage. Check SwapFinder for people in your area and make contact with them to find someone to ‘chum’ you along to a sex party.
Swinging is a fun and adventurous thing to become involved in. To become a swinging couple, first, you MUST have a mutual understanding and desire to become swingers. Treat your partner with the utmost respect and dignity while holding yourself to high integrity standards. This takes a lot of trust and commitment. Indulging yourself in sexual relationships outside of your partnership or without your partner knowing is cheating and is not swinging. Arm yourself with the knowledge of art itself before you jump right in. Do everything you can to make your partner comfortable and express and reservations you may have with your mutual decision to become a swinging couple.
Swinging 101: Getting Your Partner on Board
While trying to convince your partner to become a sexy swinging couple, keep in mind that it isn’t for everyone and they may have a few questions and concerns about it. Bring up the topic slowly and be as sensitive as possible about it. We, as human beings, tend to respond well to sensitivity and understanding. This means that if your partner agrees to try it out and then doesn’t like it, being calm and patient, they may find themselves fantasizing over time and decide to give it another go.
Be sure to reassure them often that you are in a committed relationship and your loyalty lies with them. You should keep your line of communication open at all times and be able to freely voice what is on your mind without fear of repercussion. Overall, be confident and have fun!
Swinging 101: Start With a Threesome
Starting off on the safe side, choose a mutual third party to join in on the sexy fun. Get a little bit of liquid courage and throw a new sexy third wheel in the mix and make her (or him!) the center of attention! This will make them feel wanted and come back for more. Make sure to also show affection to your partner, remember, this takes a lot for them!
Moving on steadily to the foursomes and group orgies, after you’re ready to go all in, throw out all reservations and move forward on trust and passion. The more the merrier and trust me, the is no merrier place on earth and a bed full of sexy people emitting hormones and oozing sexual pleasure. Bring on the kinky sex play and girls from hell to breakfast! We’re ready and so are you! Think of the places you can go! We’ll help you find it and maybe even go along for the ride!
Swinging 101: Be a Person of Substance
When it comes to sex parties, sex clubs and swingers clubs the general rule of thumb is that you must not bring any illegal substances, drugs or alcohol with you. Nor should you show up inebriated or high. That is just rude and completely disrespectful to the host and yourself. Many parties will be ‘BYOB’ which means ‘bring your own bottle’ and some sex club venues might charge a cork fee (but not all do this).
With regard to food and drink, you will also find that there are designated areas just for that, so don’t take food and drinks outside of those areas. The same applies to smoking, if the venue or home is a smoke-free place, do not break the rules.
Before we finish up, we will list a few of the rules of etiquette to give you an idea of how to behave before to go to a sex club or swingers party for the first time.
- Bathe or shower before you go and make sure you are extremely clean and fresh-smelling
- Dressed to completely impress—even though you might not be wearing your clothes for very long
- Wear a fragrance that is subtle and not overwhelming, unless directed by the host to wear none
- Arrive in a timely manner and respect the rules of the house, sex club or venue
- When engaging in a threesome respect both partners and make sure you don’t leave one out
- Arrive and leave with the same partner you attended with
- Keep your breath clean and don’t eat garlic, pepperoni or onions before you attend!
- As a first timer try to be confident even if you don’t feel it
- Don’t get hurt if someone turns you down, move on
- Respect the area, the sex club or the home of the host and leave everything as you find it
That’s about it really, except to say that you are there to enjoy the experience, so just have fun!!
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